Sunday, June 20, 2004

Expressing oneself as a medium of overcoming grief

I found this particularly helpful.....

Expressing Yourself

Share With Others:

One of the most important steps taken in the grief process is telling others what you need. Many people probably want to help you, but are not sure how. People often are afraid of upsetting those grieving with mentioning simple tasks or errands.

Whether it's shoveling the sidewalk or just going for a cup of coffee, we need to share with our living loved ones what would be helpful to us.

Share With Yourself:

Another important step for us in expressing ourselves is sharing with our self how we are really doing. Many people who have suffered the death of a loved one have felt a need to record their thoughts and feelings about the event and its aftermath. Keeping a written journal is the most common method, but others have painted, drawn, sculpted, photographed, tape recorded, written poetry, or composed music to express themselves and promote healing after the death of a loved person.

Ways to Start Expressing Yourself:

Plan to spend some time each day with your journal. Before you begin, take a few moments to relax and meditate to help you focus.

Date each entry. When you look back after a few months, you will be amazed at how much you have grown and changed.

Consider what was and is easy, what was and is difficult. What color and shape is the emotion or image?

Put entries in sections of your loose-leaf notebook labeled, for example, present, past, future, hurting, healing, disappointments, accomplishments, dreams, etc.

Let your thoughts flow freely. Do not censor. Be honest with yourself.

Writing a letter to the deceased sharing sad or happy memories or completing unfinished business is very healing.

Write, compose, or paint spontaneously, forgetting rules of the discipline which would inhibit your creativity.

Protect the privacy of your journal. You do not need to share it with anyone, but it could be healing to share it with someone you can trust.


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